It is very hard for me to accept that 95% of my responses are controlled by my self consciousness. It is so easy to get triggered and allow my auto pilot to instantly take over. How many times have you reacted to something before you even reallized it? An invisible button gets pushed and you…
Category: About Me
My Journey
Self Love – Step 4: Document Your Timeline
I am a big advocate for write it down to get it out. When recovering from trauma, it can feel like we can’t think, we get confused and we can experience cognitive dissonance. Charting our past on a timeline can help. I use mine as a tool for several things. It allows me to back…
Self Love – Step 3: Study, Research & Deep Dive
We are living in a time where help and information is only a few clicks away! Data is readily available to us and this season is the time to use it to its fullest to learn and grow. I always promote the Bible first. But when I am upset and in despair, it can be…
Self Love – Step 2: Take an Honest Inventory
Sometimes we just need to do a self check with ourselves. How can we know our value if we don’t know who we are? I have done a lot of questioning my worth and taking stock of who I know myself to be. What I will and won’t stand for and how I refuse to…
Self Love – Step 1: Establish Your Support System
The one thing that I can’t say enough is love yourself by finding and cultivating your support system. Find at least 3 people whom will fill the following needs: Be Honest with You! It is essential that you find someone you know will be truthful with you no matter what. Absolutely no “Yes Men”. Love…
Purge
Based on my experience, I have encountered (3) types of Purges during my separation / divorce process: Spiritual Purge – Spirit (forgivness for myself and my husband) Physical Purge – Home / Environmenet (my safe place with boundaries) Mental / Emotional Purge – Heart / Mind (acceptance of the situation, loss and outcome) Each one…
Accepting and coming to grips with a harsh reality…
For the last thirty years, I have poured myself out willingly. Doing so is what comes natural for me. I have always been willing to recalibrate, learn, change, and adapt for the people I love. Never did I not think those who professed their love for me wouldn’t do the same for me. My entire…
Examining the root of my Codependency
I mean it when I say that I am a tortured soul. I have assumed a caretaker roll since I was a very small child. My parents divorced when I was four years old and the trauma of that situation left a deep impact. I saw the torture my mother endured and I grew to…
A Little bit about me
I am 50 years old. I am from a lineage of very strong women. Women who were strong because they had no choice. Low economic status, low education, low income and desparate to raise their children while baring ALL of the responsibility. I will be sharing more about my childhood as I disect the reasons…